Ive always thought that men do not have to verbally or psychically make you feel uncomfortable in order to actually make you feel uncomfortable. Its called sexual harassment. The male gaze produces most of the time an un inviting effect on women. Women live under a pedestal. They have to walk a certain way , look , speak , appeal etc. And that is because of society structure. However we are all to blame for it because even knowing this. We have one way or another accepted this structure. Women are brought up to live up to these expectations.
The male gaze has only magnified anger for women. There is pressure giving to women even when they do not expected it. Just walking down the street I there seems to be problem with what ever direction my head is positioned. When my head is down a man says “put a smile on ma” and when its up “ Hey god bless you, let me talk to you”.
I have developed a negative reflex with a face expression of disgust that appears in my face after I am being looked at. I remember a few days ago a man in maybe his late 50s gazed me for what seems to be a long time. He gazed from afar while I was approaching close to pass his way . His gaze stood all the way to when I passed him.
This is where the Oppositional Gaze is challenge by race. Bell Hooks speaks about the struggles of identification in blacks on screen. Bell brings an interesting point with indicating that the “gaze” is actually a form of domination. Her example of being yelled at as a child “ Look at me “ by parents was spot on. When some one is asking you to look that them, usually the one thats is being asked to look are the ones that are suborns. “critical, interrogating black looks were mainly concerned with issues of race and racism, the way racial domination of blacks and white over determined representation”( Hooks,118) .
I think education today can help us change or mold a bit this situation. Now that we have all this history about whats going on we can try to take a stand. We already know how the media want us to make us feel. They have a huge part for which women can feel insecure. With this knowledge I think that us as individuals have to take a stand and say no to these advertisements that are constantly telling us who we should look.
this link also gives us proof that women have some faults in the way the world is structured because I argue that if women have knowledge about the true intentions of the media, than why participant in modeling or posing a certain way. Everyone should take a stand for this matter because equality is what we deserve.